Lately I feel like our friends are really examining what or who they are in Christ. What it means to have a God centered marriage and how that is reflected in the way you choose to live daily. We are no exception to this movement. Pretty heavy stuff for two people, who just a few years ago thought studying at Aspen and coke dates would be a way of life forever. Although we still like crushed ice and diet cokes, we feel the need to rediscover ourselves as individuals once again; individuals and people who are a part of something bigger than ourselves, marriage.
In the past 7 months I have had conversations with Chad that I couldn’t have predicted having before we lived together. I’ve only just started learning about him in a more intimate way. I’m figuring out how to be held accountable as his wife and about my part in supporting his walk with God. No fairy tale, pre-marital counseling session, or late night make-out chat session could have prepared me for what was possible.
When Chad and I got married we really embraced the idea that we were marrying adventure. We still do. It would be nice if when our adventure came to an end if the world were better for it. If we still counted all of the people we love now as good friends. And if we knew that each day when we woke up, it didn’t matter what the world said because we were joyful. I believe joy comes from God. Knowing Chad we will get where we are going in an unconventional way, so it isn’t worth worrying about now.
My prayer is that we all continue to embrace life in a way that leaves room for all of its possibilities.
Sometimes I feel lost in a world of people who know exactly where they are going. This can be especially frustrating, probably something to do with my type “A” personality and completely unrealistic personal expectations. That’s where the Beach Boys rush in and remind me that what’s happening in my life is a destination in itself and I better slow down and enjoy. As Chad and I were leaving the church five months ago, Wouldn’t It Be Nice was escorting us back down the aisle. We spent the better part of 7 years looking forward to this time in our lives. If you haven’t heard the song in a while here are the lyrics:
Wouldn’t it be nice if we were older
Then we wouldn’t have to wait so long
And wouldn’t it be nice to live together
In the kind of world where we belong
You know its gonna make it that much better
When we can say goodnight and stay together
Wouldn’t it be nice if we could wake up
In the morning when the day is new
And after having spent the day together
Hold each other close the whole night through
The happy times together we’ve been spending
I wish that every kiss was never ending
Oh Wouldn’t it be nice
Maybe if we think and wish and hope and pray it might come true
Baby then there wouldn’t be a single thing we couldn’t do
We could be married
And then we’d be happy
Wouldn’t it be nice
You know it seems the more we talk about it
It only makes it worse to live without it
But lets talk about it
Oh, wouldn’t it be nice
Look around, you may have just reached one of your many destinations too! Enjoy!